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Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Mommy Stands Up - Being Your Child's Advocate: Guest Blogger Alicia Romano Mom, Wife and Entrepreneur
Alicia writes:
I, like many of you who are reading this, am a parent. I have four wonderful children the oldest being 10 years, and the youngest is 9 months. My oldest, a boy, has ADHD. I refused to see the facts and he was diagnosed when he was almost 7. Yes, I medicate my son year round. But this isn't an entry about the joys or the evils of parenting an ADHD child. This is a post about how over the years, even before the diagnosis, I have stuck up for him, went to bat for him. There were times when I was the only one who did (my husband doesn't count. lol). Because at the end of the day, be it with a coach, a teacher, or even the grandparents, it's my responsibility to speak up for my son. I am his advocate.
I was brought up to question authority but ultimately do as I was told. I was taught that I needed to respect my teachers and my elders. I called everyone Mister and Misses, I answered with Sirs and Ma'ams. Even now if I met with someone who is obviously my senior, I have a hard time calling them by their first names. I don't think it is a bad way to be raised, and I am instilling this into my children. So the first time I had to step up to the plate, and talk to a person in authority about my son, it was hard. Hard, but completely necessary. He was growing more and more frustrated, and I needed to help him. It was with his Kindergarten teacher. I tried the laid back approach, "Well, if that is what you think is right." I tried the blowing it off approach, "They just don't get him" I even tried the Momma Bear approach. "I'm sorry if my son doesn't fit into your tidy little box. Deal." Nothing I was doing was helping. I felt as if my hands were tied. I mean, these people were the ones that were with him for 6+ hours a day. These were the ones that dealt with him more, and were more a part of his life than I was.
And then, it was like a light bulb went off in my head, and I slammed on the brakes. My eureka moment was when he was in his second year of the first grade, after I was blind sided by the school counselor and principal. (This memory is burned into my head. They had called me up to the school under a pretext that my son needed something from me. I walked over a mile with my youngest at the time who was barely three, in the 20 degree temperatures. Upset doesn't even scratch the surface of what I was feeling.) They wanted to meet with me, to talk about my parenting skills, and give me information about where my husband and I could take classes. The counselor also wanted to give me information about enrolling my son in counselling sessions. I lost my mind. I told them that there was nothing wrong with my son. I told them that it was the school's responsibility to provide not only academics but a positive social setting as well. My husband and I already had made an appointment with a pediatric neurologist to have him tested for ADHD. I told both of them this. They basically told me that I was imagining it, and it came full circle back to my parenting skills. The counselor even mentioned that when you are not mature enough to have a baby and raise a child, situations like this occur. I threw my drivers licence at her (I was 30), and brought up my daughter. My daughter was in Kindergarten at the time. They had no idea who she was. I made a flippant comment about that being a good thing. I asked them how it could be my parenting skills when they had no clue who she was yet they are being raised in the same house with the same rules. I told them that instead of throwing accusations around, maybe we should work together as a team for my son.
The meeting accomplished squat, but it was like the flood gates had opened, and I realized I could stand up to authority figures for my son. Holy Crap, I wasn't a person not in authority. I had the most powerful authority of all. I was his parent. I was their equals. My babes are precious and I am entrusting them to you. You damn well better treat them well. Now when we get a report from school saying that he is jerking around in class, I make sure his teachers know that I won't take any bullshit from them. If he is screwing up (he does like to be the class clown) then take care of it. If it has something to do with his ADHD, I will take care of it. But don't you dare label him. Don't you dare be nasty to him. Don't you dare treat him with anything less than the respect he deserves. I know he gives it to you. That is the one thing I have heard over and over again, how polite and respectful my son is, and he deserves the same in return. Don't get me wrong, I know that there are teachers out there that will not like my kids. Coaches out there who will grumble when they see their names on the roster, but the fact of the matter is, it doesn't matter if you like my kid or not.
Part of the definition of the word advocate means: 1) a person who speaks or writes in support or defense of a person, cause, etc. (usually fol. by of ): an advocate of peace. 2) a person who pleads for or in behalf of another; intercessor. That is what we have to do. We have to stand up for our children.
Because honestly, if you aren't your child's advocate, who is?
To read more about what she has to say follow her here at http://thereare4.blogspot.com/, to learn about her family business -- check out -- http://www.fracascleveland.com/.
What goes up.. must come down??
Here's a Glimpse Into our Holidays!!
| The Girls in their Christmas Pajamas |
| The parental units.. and Morgy!! |
| Christmas Bliss!! |
| Elf Sightings.. |
| A&J opening thier gifts |
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| Our First Real Christmas Tree |
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| Stairway to Heaven |
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| Stockings hung by the Chimney with Care |
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| Hope |
Friday, December 17, 2010
Holiday Table Settings....
Browsing the Internet for Holiday Table Setting Ideas and I came across some great decor by Katrina Giles... I just thought I would share..
Sunday, November 21, 2010
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Things that Tickle My Fancy... anything Petunia Pickle Bottom... but this one has me especially.. giddy!!
Dense fields of tulips dot the Dutch countryside in this sweetly simple, Scandinavian inspired design of navy blue against bright white on Organic Cotton canvas with floral pattern Glazed accent trim.
"Have Weekender will Travel."
Navy/White/Cloud Blue modern tulip garden design with a floral tile Glazed accent trim. Navy Blue water-resistant lining and Cloud Blue piping. Cloud Blue cotton shoulder straps.
Lightweight and earth-friendly
Made from Certified Organic Cotton
Side snaps expand the interior space
Four exterior pockets for bottles, cell phone , Ipod or keys
Four internal bottle pockets, seven organizational pockets, and key clip
Removable and wipe-able changing pad
Options
A Comparison Of Rices for
Diabetes Meal Plans
Diabetes Meal Plans
Written by Sejal Dave, MS, RD/LD, CDE of HealthCastle.com
Published in September 2010
(HealthCastle.com) Rice is a staple food that is eaten all around the world. It's a cereal grass that is cultivated for its edible grain. Although the definition of rice is quite straightforward, the different varieties and forms can make it difficult to choose what's best for a diabetes meal plan. The following list provides a breakdown of popular rice varieties and the amount of carbs and glycemic index for each.
4 Rice Options for Healthy Meals
- Basmati Rice
Basmati rice has longer grains or kernels than other rice varieties. It's known for its distinct flavor and aroma - the taste has been compared to roasted nuts or popcorn. Basmati rice is predominantly used in Indian cuisine, but can be used with various dishes. The kernels cook lengthwise, which results in long, free-flowing rice that is fluffy rather than sticky. Basmati rice is available in both brown and white varieties.
In 1 cup cooked: 44 grams of carbs, 1 g of fiber, glycemic index = 58
- Wild Rice
Wild rice is known for its nutty flavor and chewy texture. It's made up of four different types of grasses from the genus Zizania. It is native to the area around the Great Lakes, where Native Americans harvest it, so it is also known as Indian Rice. Because of the popularity of wild rice, it's also commercially produced (i.e. not wild anymore) and readily available.
In 1 cup cooked: 35 grams of carbs, 3 g of fiber, glycemic index = 57
- Sweet, Sticky, or Waxy Rice
Sweet, sticky, or waxy rice is a short-grain Asian rice, which, as its name implies, is sticky and gelatinous. It can have a sweeter taste than other rices and can be used as a savory side dish or as a dessert, depending on the cuisine. It has a higher glycemic index value than other rice varieties. Sweet rice is often considered to be high in gluten, but this is not the case. It is gluten-free and safe for people who have gluten-sensitivity.
In 1 cup cooked: 37 grams of carbs, 1.7 g of fiber, glycemic index = 86
- Black Rice
Black rice is unique not only for its color, but also because it's high in bran and antioxidants. It is described as having a nutty, floral taste that's almost fruity. Although it's not as common as other rice types, its popularity is increasing because of its healthy profile. According to Chinese legend, black rice was only for Emperors because of its high nutrient content, rare color, and highly unusual taste.
In 1 cup cooked: 32 grams of carbs, 2 g of fiber, glycemic index = 78
| The Bottom Line |
| A diabetes meal plan can definitely include rice - in fact, it's part of the grain/starch food group, which makes up a large part of a balanced meal plan. For people with diabetes, the focus should be on portion control and individual taste preference. The glycemic index can help guide your choice, but remember that each person responds differently to foods. It is best to check your blood sugar level two hours after a meal to see how you respond to rice and other foods. |
Saturday, September 25, 2010
Going to the Fair...
Early on in our dating .. Anwar and I accepted the fact that on Friday night's we were just plain pooped. I mean we were totally and completely exhausted. So as a rule, we generally don't try to do too much on Fridays. But, since I had my surgery last weekend, and was out of it. We had to push back taking the kids to the Fair.
Our plan was to make the Annual Gwinnett County Fair a tradition for our family. However, last year morning sickness trumped tradition. So last night we loaded up the girls and headed for the fair. Jaime was 3 the last time we went and I don't think she really remembered. But, we tried to get her excited and tell her as best we could what to expect. However, I don't think that anything that we said adequately described her first look at all the lights, the noise, and the sheer excitement that is in the air at the fair.
My little girl who is generally pretty.. cautious and even a little timid was mesmerized. We ate first and she could not even focus on that task because there was so much going on around her. She wanted to ride all the little kiddy rides, and some of the big kiddy rides which we had to deny her on. But, she was a BEAST.. lol.
One of the kiddy rides just looked to me as something that could result in a potential melt down, for several reasons. The first one being that she had to go on it all alone, no parental units, and the second one being, it went kind of fast and dipped a little low. But, even after Mommy's "Are you sure, they won't stop the ride just for you " speech, she choose to go. My brave angel girl.. She had a good time, and as I stood on the side lines.. holding on to the stroller too tight, and balancing Morgan on my hip, I swear I felt over bump and curve with her. When she got off I asked her if she was scared and she said "a little bit", and pointed to the next ride she wanted to go on.
Its an amazing thing watching life through the eyes of your toddler. It should be nothing new to me, but Anthony is 14 now, and its been a while since I have experienced... it..
My baby girl even did amazingly well, she didn't know which way to look with soo much going on.. but she seemed to just be enjoying being out in the night air...
Seemed like a great way to welcome in falll...












